Category: People Skills

How to be liked The best way to become a person that others like is to develop qualities that we are attracted to in others. (Mat 7:12 NIV)  So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets. This is often called the Golden Rule. If we would like others to show concern for us, then show concern for them. Think of people you like. What made you attracted to them? It may be different things in different people that attracted you to them. As you list them out, try to develop each one. Here are some areas you would probably want to develop in yourself. Encourage others People will like you if you constantly encourage and…

We can be confident because we are important in God’s sight We are wonderfully maid (Psa 139:14-16 NIV)  I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. {15} My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, {16} your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. Not only are we just wonderfully made, we are created in the image of God. (Gen 1:27 NIV)  So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. He…

Check your motive We will not be able to criticize the right way and get the right response from others if our motives are not right. On the other hand, if we criticize out of love, he will sense it and be prepared to listen. But if we criticize out of a spirit of condemnation, the person being criticized will quickly become defensive or hostile. We can use the following checklist to check our motives. Would I criticize if this were not a personal matter? Am I criticizing to make myself look better? Does this criticism bring pain or pleasure to me? Make sure the issue is worthy of criticism (Mat 7:3 NIV)  "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention…

Treat each criticism as an opportunity to improve yourself Proverbs 1:5 (NIV) let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance­­ Proverbs 19:20 (NIV) Listen to advice and accept instruction, and in the end you will be wise. Don’t take yourself too seriously We will not be able to take criticisms if we think too highly about ourselves. The Bible warns us against that. (Rom 12:3 NIV)  For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you. Evaluate the critic Who is it that criticized you? Is it someone who is always…

(Mat 7:12 NIV)  So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets. This Golden Rule is also useful in helping us to change others. It teaches us to lead by example. If we want to change someone to be kind, we be kind to them first. Jesus also led by example. To teach His disciples servanthood, He himself became a servant and washed their feet. He wanted to change them by first setting an example Himself. (John 13:14-15 NIV)  Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another's feet. {15} I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you. Close window

Understand people are created differently We find it difficult to get along with people who are different from us. But how boring the world would be if everyone were just like us. The Bible gave a good example of two people who were so different from each other. They were Jacob and Esau. (Gen 25:27 NIV)  The boys grew up, and Esau became a skillful hunter, a man of the open country, while Jacob was a quiet man, staying among the tents. We need to understand that in a conflict, it is not that we are right and they are wrong but rather that we are different. We should accept a person’s unique characteristics and not try to change him to resemble us. View a person as a package of…

Promise them something that is important to them (Luke 6:38 NIV)  Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you." We motivate someone to do something by promising him a reward. That reward has to be important to him. Or else it is not a reward in his eyes. A Christian leader can motivate his followers to serve God and do good so as to enjoy God’s blessings. Withhold something that is important to them Haggai 1:4­6 (NIV) "Is it a time for you yourselves to be living in your paneled houses, while this house remains a ruin?" 5 Now this is what…