How to Find Favor with Others

People Skills
How to be liked The best way to become a person that others like is to develop qualities that we are attracted to in others. (Mat 7:12 NIV)  So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets. This is often called the Golden Rule. If we would like others to show concern for us, then show concern for them. Think of people you like. What made you attracted to them? It may be different things in different people that attracted you to them. As you list them out, try to develop each one. Here are some areas you would probably want to develop in yourself. Encourage others People will like you if you constantly encourage and…
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Being confident/Helping others to have confidence

People Skills
We can be confident because we are important in God’s sight We are wonderfully maid (Psa 139:14-16 NIV)  I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. {15} My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, {16} your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. Not only are we just wonderfully made, we are created in the image of God. (Gen 1:27 NIV)  So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. He…
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How to give criticisms the right way

People Skills
Check your motive We will not be able to criticize the right way and get the right response from others if our motives are not right. On the other hand, if we criticize out of love, he will sense it and be prepared to listen. But if we criticize out of a spirit of condemnation, the person being criticized will quickly become defensive or hostile. We can use the following checklist to check our motives. Would I criticize if this were not a personal matter? Am I criticizing to make myself look better? Does this criticism bring pain or pleasure to me? Make sure the issue is worthy of criticism (Mat 7:3 NIV)  "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention…
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Reaching People for Christ at the Workplace

Reaching People for Christ at the Workplace

Success in work and life
Be the salt and light in the workplace (Mat 5:13-14 NIV)  "You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled by men. {14} "You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Instead of treating our job as something we have to do other than serving God, let’s see our job as an extension of our ministry. We are called to be the salt and light of the world. The effect of salt is most prominent where there is contamination and light where there is darkness. Let’s see our being in a secular environment as a great opportunity…
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Improving your performance at work

Improving your performance at work

Success in work and life
Do a job that you enjoy (Eccl 5:19 NIV)  Moreover, when God gives any man wealth and possessions, and enables him to enjoy them, to accept his lot and be happy in his work--this is a gift of God. God wants us to live a happy and abundant life (John 10:10). Considering that we spend so much of our waking hours at work, we cannot have a happy life unless we are happy at work. Therefore we can also conclude that God wants us to have a happy life at work. It has always been God’s intention that we enjoy our work. Work should not be something we do to stay alive. It should be something that reflects our interest, passion and strengths. Enjoyment at work is one of the…
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Working well with our subordinates

Working well with our subordinates

Success in work and life
No favoritism with your subordinates (Eph 6:9 NIV)  And masters, treat your slaves in the same way. Do not threaten them, since you know that he who is both their Master and yours is in heaven, and there is no favouritism with him. Treat our subordinates fairly (Col 4:1 NIV)  Masters, provide your slaves with what is right and fair, because you know that you also have a Master in heaven. As a superior or an employer, it is natural to want to maximise profits and minimize costs. Yet we should not carry this to the extent that it is unfair to those who work for us. One good gauge as to what is fair treatment to our employees is how we would like to be treated by our own…
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How to handle criticism well

People Skills
Treat each criticism as an opportunity to improve yourself Proverbs 1:5 (NIV) let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance­­ Proverbs 19:20 (NIV) Listen to advice and accept instruction, and in the end you will be wise. Don’t take yourself too seriously We will not be able to take criticisms if we think too highly about ourselves. The Bible warns us against that. (Rom 12:3 NIV)  For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you. Evaluate the critic Who is it that criticized you? Is it someone who is always…
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Putting our work in perspective

Putting our work in perspective

Success in work and life
Leading a balanced life (Luke 2:52 NIV)  And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men. The last we know about Jesus’ childhood was when He was twelve years old. Thenafter we did not hear anything about Jesus’ life till he was thirty. I am sure that when the Son of God lived on this world, everything He did would be significant. Yet the Bible is totally silent and chooses to summarize it in that one statement above. That statement tells us that Jesus did a well balanced life. We need to ask ourselves whether we also lead a balanced life. Is our job taking up so much of us that we do not have time for staying healthy, for growing spiritually, for spending time…
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Improving our attitude towards our bosses

Improving our attitude towards our bosses

Success in work and life
Obey our bosses (Rom 13:1-2 NIV)  Everyone must submit himself to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. {2} Consequently, he who rebels against the authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and those who do so will bring judgment on themselves. (Eph 6:5-6 NIV)  Slaves, obey your earthly masters with respect and fear, and with sincerity of heart, just as you would obey Christ. {6} Obey them not only to win their favor when their eye is on you, but like slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from your heart. (Col 3:22 NIV)  Slaves, obey your earthly masters in everything; and do it, not only when their eye is on…
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