Being confident/Helping others to have confidence

We can be confident because we are important in God’s sight
We are wonderfully maid

(Psa 139:14-16 NIV)  I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. {15} My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, {16} your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.

Not only are we just wonderfully made, we are created in the image of God.

(Gen 1:27 NIV)  So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.

He knows us personally.

(Mat 10:30 NIV)  And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered.

We are so important to God that He takes the effort to know us personally. Many people are crazy about celebrities. We gather every bit of information about them and know them well. Bu t they don’t know us. They may sign our autograph or shake our hands but possibly the very next day, they will not even remember they have met us. We are not important enough for them to know each of us personally. Yet God knows each one of us intimately and personally.

God sent His only Son to die for us.

(John 3:16 NIV)  “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

If God spared not His own Son but sent Him down to die for us, surely we must be very important in God’s sight.

We are unique in our gifts.

(1 Cor 12:14-18 NIV)  Now the body is not made up of one part but of many. {15} If the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason cease to be part of the body. {16} And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason cease to be part of the body. {17} If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? {18} But in fact God has arranged the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be.

We can be confident about our gifts because they are important in God’s sight. No one is “useless” in God’s kingdom.

We can be confident because with God’s help we can achieve

Many people do not have confidence with their own abilities. As a result, when they meet people, they can sense their poor self-esteem and lack of confidence.

We need not have to live with lack of confidence because the Bible promises that God will give us strength to do all things.

(Phil 4:13 NIV)  I can do everything through him who gives me strength.

(Psa 27:1-3 NIV)  The LORD is my light and my salvation– whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life– of whom shall I be afraid? {2} When evil men advance against me to devour my flesh, when my enemies and my foes attack me, they will stumble and fall. {3} Though an army besiege me, my heart will not fear; though war break out against me, even then will I be confident.

Use encouragement to build a person’s confidence

A person who is under constant insult will never be confident. If we want to build a person’s confidence, we have to constantly encourage them.

Read more about Encouragement

Give the person a few wins to build his confidence

A person loses his confidence when he has failed in the past. One way to rebuild that confidence would be to reverse the process. Give him tasks to do that he will be able to accomplish. Build up the difficulty of these tasks over time as his confidence develops.

If you give him tasks now that are too difficult for him, he will once again fail and further lose his confidence.

Do not destroy a person’s confidence by comparing him with another

We are all made differently by God. It is normal for us to be strong in certain areas and weak in others. It is frustrating if we are compared to others and made to look small because we do not have the strengths of those people.

Develop confidence in others by being confident yourself

Before David defeated Goliath, there were no giant killers in Israel. The whole nation shook with fear when they were confronted by Goliath.

(1 Sam 17:11 NIV)  On hearing the Philistine’s words, Saul and all the Israelites were dismayed and terrified.

But the situation was totally different after they saw the confidence of David to defy even a heathen giant. The Bible tells us that many giant killers arose in the nation.

(1 Chr 20:4-8 NIV)  In the course of time, war broke out with the Philistines, at Gezer. At that time Sibbecai the Hushathite killed Sippai, one of the descendants of the Rephaites, and the Philistines were subjugated. {5} In another battle with the Philistines, Elhanan son of Jair killed Lahmi the brother of Goliath the Gittite, who had a spear with a shaft like a weaver’s rod. {6} In still another battle, which took place at Gath, there was a huge man with six fingers on each hand and six toes on each foot–twenty-four in all. He also was descended from Rapha. {7} When he taunted Israel, Jonathan son of Shimea, David’s brother, killed him. {8} These were descendants of Rapha in Gath, and they fell at the hands of David and his men.

If we want to instill confidence in people, we have to be confident ourselves.